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You need more than just yourself, and here's why

“When we help ourselves we find moments of happiness. When we help others, we find lasting fulfilment.” Simon Sinek

One of the most overlooked ways to boost morale is to help other people. Soldiers learned this during basic training. We weren’t being taught how to improve our morale, but how to survive and thrive in the basic training environment. But along the way, we came to realize that we had higher morale when we helped each other overcome the obstacles in front of us.

Gradually throughout basic training, teamwork became the norm instead of the exception, and when we graduated, we were elated. Part of that elation came from graduation, but not all. Some of it came from knowing that we’d helped other people along the way.


After basic training, focus seemed to shift back to the individual and getting things done for yourself. During basic training, we needed each other and knew it, but after, it was all about self.

This trend continued after the military with veterans (by and large) possessing the mindset of “I’ve got this. I don’t need help.” Asking for help is viewed as a weakness, and thus we don’t do it.

Many times in this blog, I’ve mentioned this. As a matter of fact, you may be reading this and rolling your eyes a little. “Oh he’s talking about that again,” you may be thinking. And I get it. However, that is how important this is. During basic training, we got it. We leaned on each other for support, and those that did succeeded far more than they thought possible. Let’s get back there.

I’m not going to say I’ve been able to master this. I still struggle with asking for help. My mind still screams, “No! You don’t need help!” And I don’t always ask. But when I do, that’s when the magic happens. So let’s pledge to support each other. If you’ve taken that pledge, email me at info@jamesmcneilauthor.com today. I’d love to hear from you!

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