Simple, but not easy
Just the other day, I caught a little flack for something I said about overcoming suicidal thoughts and ideations. While I understand the objections, I feel as though I should explain my words. My comment was that “Suicidal thoughts are simple to overcome.”
I’m sure by now you’re probably thinking what my friend thought and saying, “No they are not! They’re incredibly difficult!”
The thing is both of those statements are true. Suicidal thoughts are simple to overcome, but don’t make the mistake of thinking that means they’re easy to overcome. Simple and easy may sound like they mean the same thing, but they do not.
Overcoming suicidal thoughts can be done by doing these three things consistently.
1. Get out of your own head. According to Mel Robbins, when you’re in your own head, you’re behind enemy lines. This is especially true when our own heads try to convince us we’re no good.
2. Find and depend on a reliable support system. Neither you nor I can overcome these thoughts on our own, so finding a reliable support system of people with whom you can unload your issues is vital. These people need to be willing to listen, but they can’t be willing to let you wallow in your misery. That’s a delicate balance.
3. Find your own personal mission and pursue it. Boone Cutler said that if a person has a battle buddy (reliable support system) beside him and a mission in front of him, that person cannot be stopped. Yes, he was referring to warfighters, but the fact is, this applies to all of us. You need a mission to strive toward so you can know when you’re making progress. If you don’t know where you’re going, how will you ever know when you’ve made progress?
Doing these three things consistently will help you overcome suicidal thoughts. But, you will notice none of these things are easy. It’s simple (as opposed to complicated), but it is not easy. This will require you to be intentional about growing and intentional about overcoming these thoughts and ideations.
The book, Finding Your Personal Mission can help. It is available on Amazon and Audible. You can pick up your own copy by going to bit.ly/fypmbook today.