• James McNeil


If you’ve ever dealt with stress, anxiety, or depression, you’ve probably been told to “just snap out of it” or something similar by well-meaning but misguided friends. You probably know by now this does not work.

So, why do we say it?

I admit, I’ve been guilty of saying this in the past. I did not know what to say to help a friend going through stress, anxiety, and depression. But I felt like I needed to say something. I needed to do something. Mark Gungor says in his seminar entitled “Laugh your way to a better marriage” the only reason a man will go to another man with his troubles is so that man will help fix the problem.

On the contrary, he says, when a man hears the woman he loves talking about a problem, he wants to “fix” the problem.

While he makes a good point, it’s not just men who are “fixers.” And it’s not just men who need to understand that sometimes the best way to handle a person who’s dealing with stress, anxiety, and depression is NOT to try to fix it.

When someone opens up to you about stress, anxiety, or depression, just sit there. Listen to them. Demonstrate that you care by showing them that you hear them.

We don’t have to fix each other. We just need to care.

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