When suicidal thoughts do hit, how do we tend to respond? One of the most prevalent ways is the way I tried to respond in the introduction; we hide our weaknesses out of fear of being seen as a fake. Today, we continue the look at impostor syndrome with a brief glimpse at chapter two:
A large part of impostor syndrome comes from the way we were raised. Now, I need to point out this does not apply to all of us. However, most people I know were raised with the idea that boys needed to be tough. More and more, girls are being raised with this notion too. As a result, we’ve got a generation of people who aren’t asking for help because they want to look tough.
Part of conquering impostor syndrome is conquering this need to appear tough. We champion people who aren’t asking for help; people who pull themselves up “by their bootstraps” and just fix things themselves while we (as a society) tend to alienate those who would dare let their guard down and admit to needing help.
We all have weaknesses. That’s a fact. Another fact is that we all have weak moments. Just like I did when I tried to prevent myself from shivering, we tend to cover up those weaknesses and weak moments out of a fear of impostor syndrome. As you read in the previous chapter, owning your weaknesses and weak moments is key to overcoming impostor syndrome and finding your personal mission.