Best things to say to someone struggling (part 1)
So far, we’ve been talking about phrases we should not say to someone who is struggling and may be considering a permanent end to a temporary problem. Today I’d like to go over a few phrases that are not only helpful, but they are also ideal. These are not cure-alls, nor are they intended to be. But they can help.
· “I care about you.” This is the best way to lead off this list because it is simple and straight to the point. However, it needs to be understood that if you say this (or any of these), you need to be sincere. It’s not as much the words we use, but the sincerity behind them that makes a difference. Back this up with action, or the words themselves are meaningless.
· “I’m here to listen if you want to talk.” The key here is the last part of this phrase. If they don’t want to talk, you can still be there to listen, and your presence can make more of a difference than you realize.
· “Take your time.” This one is the flip side of the “Time heals all wounds” concept because it demonstrates that there’s no need to rush feeling better. Sometimes time to separate yourself from your struggles is truly all you need, and this phrase exemplifies that perfectly.
This is a small list, and there are more good ideas for things we can say when someone is struggling. Do you have any suggestions? Leave a comment or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org today.